Key points
Here are 3 key points about wedding band engagement ring orders:
• The wedding band is worn below the engagement ring.
• The wedding band symbolizes the actual marriage. The engagement ring symbolizes the promise of marriage.
• Many people wear the wedding band and engagement ring together after the wedding. The wedding band is worn closest to the heart.
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Introduction to Wedding Bands and Engagement Rings
The engagement ring and wedding band signify the promise to one another. Engagement rings are given before marriage as a promise to marry. Wedding are exchanged during the marriage to present the couple’s lifelong commitment. These rings look somewhat the same but are different. What exactly are the differences?
Wedding bands are exchanged during the marriage ceremony to show marital commitment and change in status from engaged to married. The couples now became spouses and were expected to uphold the highest level of faith to the marriage by engaging in a monogamous marriage. The wedding band now becomes a significant symbol of marriage and union between two people. This is often simple and is made of gold, silver, or platinum.
Engagement rings are often more elaborate than wedding bands. It usually comes with a diamond, gemstone, or other sparkly design. This is a ring given before a formal marriage and is expected to be treated as a promise ring signifying an intention or interest to marry each other.
Historical Perspective on Ring Traditions
The custom of presenting an engagement ring is from Medieval Europe. It all started with the betrothal ring or a pledge-to-marry gift where diamond engagement rings became a hot thing in the 1500s as a sign of enduring love. The 1800s began introducing the idea of engagement rings and led the Americans to start using these rings for pre-wedding plans.
The wedding band also has a long history. The Egyptians believed in the symbol of eternity through a ring’s circular shape. Many believed the finger where the wedding band is worn is significant because the Greeks and Romans thought it had a vein to the heart.
Wedding rings were initially only worn by women but the emergence of the wedding band for men began during World War II when American men wore these bands to remind themselves of their wives back home.
Wedding rings have now become an important part of culture around the world.
Choosing the Right Order
Wedding rings are worn in the order of the wedding band first and the engagement ring on the left hand ring finger above the wedding band. This keeps the engagement ring closest to the heart. This order is highly influenced by cultural and personal factors.
Cultural Variations in Ring Order
The wedding ring is worn on the right hand and the engagement ring is left on the left hand. This is common in South America, India, Germany, Spain, Russia, and other European countries.
Orthodox Christian brides and Jewish brides may get engaged with a plain band and will later wear a wedding band on the right hand after getting married.
Personal Preferences and Modern Trends
Some brides do a modern switch when they get married by stacking their rings together on one finger or separating them between hands. Comfort and personal style dictate this decision.
Sometimes the engagement ring is so tall that other people may leave it alone on the left ring finger. In this case the wedding band may be worn on the right hand until the ceremony.
Some people put the wedding band next to the skin and the engagement ring stacked above. This allows both rings to be seen. It also enhances the sparkle of the engagement ring.
The decision still boils down to the person wearing the rings. The order may be based on the couple’s style or preference. There are no hard and fast rules – just traditions to borrow from.
Practical Considerations
Some practical considerations that come into play are: ensure you get the ring size measured properly. Get a platinum ring if the job or lifestyle is too active. Bigger rocks or diamonds could get damaged more easily. Get insurance for the rings for compensation if they are stolen or lost.
Budgeting for Wedding Bands and Engagement Rings
Set a budget for the rings that works for you. The total cost can greatly vary but is usually $ 5K-$ 10K. Think about how much you can reasonably afford, leave room for resizing, and make a savings plan if you need some time to pay for two rings.
Timeline for Purchasing and Ordering
Start looking for a ring 6-12 months before the proposal. It can take time to find the perfect style so it’s best to ensure you get a ring at least 2 months to leave room for resizing, customization, and shipping. You may also allow a 4-6 month period for ordering and shipping if the ring will be customized.
Expert Insights
Think about their taste and style when selecting the engagement ring. According to wedding planner Marcy Blum the true essence of your relationship should be a game-changer. The expert advises thinking beyond trends and what your partner will look like wearing every day. Smart couples should opt for classic rings that are well-made. Collaborate with a jeweler you trust to find the ideal ring at your desired price range.
Advice from Marcy Blum on Ring Selection
When in doubt go for the classic solitaire. An elegant single diamond on a plain band is always a safe choice.
Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ)
What finger does the wedding ring go on for men?
The wedding ring traditionally goes on the left ring finger for both men and women. This comes from an old belief that a vein runs directly from that finger to the heart.
Should you take off your engagement ring for the wedding ceremony?
It’s up to personal preference but many brides keep their engagement ring on during the wedding ceremony and stack their new wedding band directly below it.
Is it okay for the bride to wear black at her wedding?
It’s becoming more popular for brides to wear black wedding dresses or add black accents. Black symbolizes confidence and sophistication.
What are some non-traditional suit colors for grooms?
Grooms slip beyond basic black suits with popular options like navy, gray, khaki, and pastels. White and ivory suits are also fashionable.
Should bridesmaids match the wedding colors?
It looks cohesive if the bridesmaids’ dresses match the wedding colors but the bride may give them the freedom to pick their dresses in any color.
Is it rude for a guest to wear white to a wedding?
Unless specifically requested guests should avoid wearing solid white as it is a reserved color for the bride. White prints or accents are generally fine.
What jewelry should the groom wear?
Minimal jewelry like a watch, wedding ring, and cufflinks or tie clip are appropriate. Save loud statement pieces for the bride.
What are beach wedding attire tips?
Light and breathable fabrics like linen or cotton are ideal for beach weddings. Brides can wear simple dresses and go barefoot.
How should older relatives dress for a wedding?
Older guests should choose outfits they feel comfortable and confident in. Dark colors and silky fabrics are flattering.
What should parents of the bride and groom wear?
Parents should avoid outshining the couple. Dark suits for dads and cocktail dresses for moms are classic choices.
I’m Kary Walters, a wedding planner and writer with a passion for helping couples stay together and achieve their relationship goals. With over a decade of experience, I specialize in self-improvement and have worked with individuals & couples facing challenges.