Foundational Biblical Principles for Relationships
Here are some bible verses about relationships with boyfriends/husbands. While the bible does not specifically mention boyfriends, the following would be applicable:
Contents
- 1 Foundational Biblical Principles for Relationships
- 2 Navigating Courtship with Biblical Insights
- 3 “Building a God-Centered Relationship: Ecclesiastes 4:9-12”
- 4 Communication and Conflict Resolution
- 5 Speaking the Truth in Love: Ephesians 4:15
- 6 Quick to Listen, Slow to Speak: James 1:19
- 7 Forgiveness and Reconciliation: Colossians 3:13
- 8 Trust and Commitment in Romantic Relationships
- 9 Spiritual Growth as a Couple
- 10 Praying Together: Matthew 18:20
- 11 Encouraging Each Other’s Faith: Hebrews 10:24-25
- 12 Studying the Bible Together: 2 Timothy 3:16-17
- 13 Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ)
Love and Respect: Ephesians 5:33
“However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband”.
It says that husbands need to love their wives and wives should respect their husbands. This goes for any relationship – we should care about each other and treat each other with dignity. Loving and respecting the people close to us is definitely important!
Patience and Kindness: 1 Corinthians 13:4-7
“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.”
This passage goes into how love is patient and kind. It’s not just about feelings, but how we act toward one another – with gentleness, empathy and understanding. Even though people can bug us, it’s good to respond with compassion.
Trust and Faithfulness: Proverbs 3:3-4
“Let love and faithfulness never leave you; bind them around your neck, write them on the tablet of your heart. Then you will win favor and a good name in the sight of God and man.”
The book of Proverbs encourages putting our trust in God and being faithful to each other. Relationships are built on loyalty and commitment. When life gets hard, sticking by someone shows how much you care. Trusting someone and being reliable yourself is a real blessing.
Courtship can be tricky actually. But the Bible gives us some good guidelines on how to do it right. It’s important to have the right intent from the start. Proverbs tells us that “we should plan carefully before we act.” So don’t just rush into things. Take your time and make sure your heart is in the right place.
“The Role of Intentionality: Proverbs 16:3”
“Commit your work to the Lord, and your plans will be established”
Being intentional is key. The verse is saying we gotta think things through instead of just doing whatever. Like commit to getting to know the other person before jumping into anything serious. And talk about your values too – know if they line up with what the Bible says. Hopefully avoiding conflicts way down the road.
“Maintaining Purity: 1 Thessalonians 4:3-5”
“It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control your own body in a way that is holy and honorable, not in passionate lust like the pagans, who do not know God.”
This verse reminds us to keep things honoring God. Courtship shouldn’t pressure you into anything you aren’t ready for. Set boundaries to protect your purity and respect the other person. If they like you for real, they’ll understand. And it will build trust between you in the long run.
“Building a God-Centered Relationship: Ecclesiastes 4:9-12”
“Two are better than one,
because they have a good return for their labor:If either of them falls down,
one can help the other up.
But pity anyone who falls
and has no one to help them up.Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm.
But how can one keep warm alone?Though one may be overpowered,
two can defend themselves.
A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.”
The verses talks about how two are better than one. Basically, two Christians supporting each other in faith is powerful. So focus on growing closer to God together through Bible study, prayer and church. Build each other up in Godly character. That kind of relationship is a real blessing and will last through anything. Pretty great advice for navigating relationships, huh?
Communication and Conflict Resolution
Communication is so important, And being able to resolve conflicts is a big part of any healthy relationship. Actually, arguing is inevitable sometimes, but how we handle disagreements matters the most. Hopefully we can learn to really listen to each other without getting all worked up. James talks about being quick to listen and slow to speak—that’s good advice! Taking time to understand where the other person comes from fixes a lot.
Speaking the Truth in Love: Ephesians 4:15
“Instead, speaking the truth in love, we will grow to become in every respect the mature body of him who is the head, that is, Christ.”
Paul talks about speaking the truth in love. And that’s not always easy! But for shure, getting all mad or yelling at someone won’t make ’em wanna hear what ya gotta say. We gotta find a happy balance, being real while also showing the other person they matter. Like using “I feel” statements shares how something made you feel without straight-up accusing. Mixing in compliments too reminds ’em of what you like about ’em.
Quick to Listen, Slow to Speak: James 1:19
“My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry”
James really hits the nail on the head here. Too bad more of us don’t follow this advice, huh? Sometimes it’s just so easy to run our mouths without stopping to think. Hopefull we can train ourselves to pause and actually listen to what someone’s saying before responding. Getting all their thoughts out prevents misunderstandings too. And who knows, we might learn something new!
Forgiveness and Reconciliation: Colossians 3:13
“Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.”
Forgiveness is tough but so important for moving past hurt. We all make mistakes, and holding onto anger or resentment only poisons us. Hopefully with time and patience, and with God’s help, wounds can heal. Making amends don’t mean forgetting what happened, just choosing to let go of bad feelings. With forgiveness comes the chance to start over fresh—and that’s a beautiful thing.
Trust and Commitment in Romantic Relationships
Trust and commitment are really important for relationships. Actually, without trust, how can you really love someone? And if you’re not committed, then what’s the point, right? Proverbs 31:11 talks about trusting your partner. Hopefully we can build that kind of trust like it talks about.
Building Trust: Proverbs 31:11
“The heart of her husband trusteth in her, And he shall have no lack of gain.”
This verse is like a good reminder. It says to trust your partner, ’cause they’ll be good to you. And trusting them shows you care about them too, which is important. If you build trust like it says, your relationship can get really strong over time. You gotta have faith in each other.
Commitment and Covenant: Malachi 2:14
“You ask, “Why?” It is because the Lord is the witness between you and the wife of your youth. You have been unfaithful to her, though she is your partner, the wife of your marriage covenant.”
Being committed means sticking with your partner through everything. Like the covenant in this verse, commit means promising to stay together no matter what. But you still gotta work at it- commitment takes effort. You have to keep that promise you made and work out any problems as a team. Only then your love will last.
Faithfulness in Love: Song of Solomon 8:6-7
“Place me like a seal over your heart,
like a seal on your arm;
for love is as strong as death,
its jealousy unyielding as the grave.
It burns like blazing fire,
like a mighty flame.
Many waters cannot quench love;
rivers cannot sweep it away.
If one were to give
all the wealth of one’s house for love,
it would be utterly scorned.”
These verses talk about how love is really strong, like death. But they also say to keep your love faithful. If you stay true to each other, your love can conquer anything. But you have to work at being loyal. You gotta put your partner first and respect them. Then nothing can wreck what you have built together through faithfulness.
Spiritual Growth as a Couple
And growing together spiritually is so important, you know? Spirituality is like a plant – it needs good soil, sunshine, water. We gotta nourish each other’s faith, help each other believe. Hope it don’t sound cheesy! But praying together really does work, actually.
Praying Together: Matthew 18:20
“For where two or three gather in my name, there am I with them.”
So Matthew 18:20 says “where two or more are gathered in my name, there am I among them.” And praying as a couple can really bring you closer to God – but also to each other. It’s nice to support each other, hold each others hands during hard times. Pray together daily if you can. Even just a quick one before bed or say grace over meals.
Encouraging Each Other’s Faith: Hebrews 10:24-25
“And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds, not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another—and all the more as you see the Day approaching.”
The Bible talks about “encouraging one another”. And ain’t that the truth – we all need encouragement! It’s easy to get discouraged or loose faith sometimes. But having someone by your side believes with you, in you, can really make a difference. Leave each other notes of praise. Celebrate each other’s wins, big and small. Point each other back to God during tough times.
Studying the Bible Together: 2 Timothy 3:16-17
“All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness, so that the servant of God may be thoroughly equipped for every good work.”
Last one is studying scripture as a team. The Bible says it’s useful for teaching and correcting. So discussing what you read over dinner or something can really bring you closer to God’s word together.
Ask each other questions, share insights. Help each other apply lessons to your lives. It’s more fun – and you usually learn twice as much – with your best friend by your side.
Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ)
Does God say anything about finding your soulmate?
Actually, the Bible doesn’t mention the term ‘soulmate’. But it does say people are better with a partner. Like in Ecclesiastes it says two are better than one. And many verses talk about how husbands and wives should support each other. So finding someone who fits you well and treats you right is important according to God.
Does the Bible say if you should stay together for your kid's sake?
The Bible doesn’t say much about specifically staying together for the kids. But it does talk about parents having a duty to care for their children. And children do better with both a mom and dad. So if there’s no abuse or anything, and the parents can get along ok, it might be best to try to work things out. Divorce is tough on everyone, especially little kids.
What does the Bible say about kissing before marriage?
The Bible doesn’t directly mention kissing. But it does talk about avoiding sexual immorality and intimacy before marriage. So most experts say it’s best not to kiss heavily or do anything to stir up strong passion until after you get married, out of respect for God and your future partner.
How can you tell if you're spiritually connected to someone according to the Bible?
The Bible doesn’t talk about spiritual connections between two people like we might think of it. But it does encourage Christians to encourage each other’s faith. So if you and someone can talk about God, pray together, and help each other love and obey Christ more, that’s probably a sign you share an important spiritual bond that could be the basis for a strong relationship.
What are some Biblical steps to build a good relationship?
The Bible talks about things like communication, patience, kindness, honesty and loyalty as important for any healthy relationship. It also says it’s good to resolve conflicts peacefully. So steps could be listening without judgement, compromising when you disagree, showing affection, spending quality time together, and praying for God’s help in loving and understanding each other.
Is dating different types of partners ok according to the Bible?
The Bible doesn’t give specifics about dating different kinds of people. But it does say believers and non-believers shouldn’t be unevenly yoked. Dating someone who doesn’t follow Christ can be risky if they try to pull you away. However, the Bible also says not to judge by outward appearances and that God cares most about our hearts. So as long as a potential partner respects your faith, their background may matter less.
I’m Kary Walters, a couples mediator, life coach, and writer with a passion for helping couples stay together and achieve their relationship goals. With over a decade of experience, I specialize in self-improvement and have worked with individuals & couples facing challenges.